2 The Giver

The Gift of Connecting, Tuning into Others and the Need for Connection.

2s Say: “Relationships are more important to me than almost anything.  I am more comfortable giving than receiving.  I have trouble asking for what I need.  I try to be as sensitive and tactful as possible.  When I'm alone I know what I want, but with others I'm not sure.  Sometimes I feel a deep sense of loneliness.  Sometimes I get emotionally drained taking care of everyone else.  I enjoy giving compliments to people, although it might look like flattery.  If I don't get the closeness I need, I feel sad, hurt, and unimportant.  I work hard to overcome all obstacles in a relationship. I get juice from helping others.”

Root Emotion:  Hurt.

The gift or talent of the 2 is being tuned into the feelings of others. The desire is for connection, like a magnet to the heart of others. Generally, 2s are extroverts, although they can be shy.  They notice what others are feeling and know exactly what will help them to feel “better.”  This type can be easily “parentified” in an unhealthy family.  They will bask in being needed because it keeps them connected to others but will forget their own needs because they get emotional juice from giving.

2s tend to be very

sweet

giving

nice

romantic

empathetic

 "I feel good when I can serve others. (I defer my own needs.)"